Don’t get me wrong. I don’t have anything against women. I’m just not a fan. Many years ago, I tried to sleep with a woman, but it felt like inserting a marshmallow into a coin-slot. No, thanks. Not for me. Then I figured I’m a gay man.
Men’s rights activists
The modern culture is against men, as I see it – when people get divorced, the family law is against men; if a woman touches a man in the office every day, that’s okay & if a man touches a woman in the office every day, that’s sexual harassment.
Therefore, I admire men’s rights activists who have the courage to call people out and declare what’s right and what’s unfair.
Even though these men’s right activists don’t necessarily like gay men, I still acknowledge the value of their work because they are supporting men in general with what they do.
Because I’m not a fan of women (don’t forget that I’m a gay man), I also support men. In my opinion, there is a place in hell for men who don’t support men!
What’s on Instagram
Undoubtedly, the most popular social media platform nowadays is Instagram. To be honest with you, I don’t like social media and I’m not very interested in Instagram. I just don’t see the value in it.
Then I noticed that there are a large number of women who are wearing very little in their photos on Instagram. It turns me off completely.
I understand why women are validated by attention – women, by nature, want to get high-value men in order to make sure that they and their children can survive. That’s just evolution. And the most effective way to get high-value men is to get their attention first. So, I have a lot of compassion for women.
But I’m not turned on by half-naked women on Instagram because I’m a gay guy. That’s why I downloaded the best gay travel app on my phone instead.
Surrounded by men
Because I’m on Findle app, I’ve been surrounded by gay travelers these days. For example, today I had breakfast with Jake, a professional gay traveler; I had lunch with Larry, a seasoned gay traveler; I had dinner with Jeff, a young gay tourist. Life is so good.
Sometimes I hook up with local gay men when I live in an exotic city. Sometimes I hook up with other gay tourists. Life is an adventure for me.
Because women are absent in my life, I don’t feel stressed at all.
When I was interacting with women that I met in the past, I could see that most of them operate based on their emotions rather than logic. And I just couldn’t agree with them.
I even tried to read books written by female authors such as Marianne Williamson and Lissa Rankin. I am pretty sure they have some good messages, but I don’t resonate with their messages at all. In fact, I don’t even know what Marianne Williamson is talking about.
If you watch Marianne Williamson’s videos on YouTube, you might hear her clearing her throat more often than hearing any enlightening message.
I remember several years agoan experienced gay traveler gave me a book written by Marianne Williamson (A Return to Love). He was in tears, saying “This book changed my life!” But when I was reading that book, I can’t even understand it.
I thought something was wrong with me until I discovered Owen Cook’s work. Owen says he also couldn’t understand what Marianne Williamson was talking about.
Then I realized that the majority of Marianne Williamson’s audience are women. Her work is probably not for most gay tourists like me.
I guess men and women are biologically programmed to be different in various ways, including the brain. So, I’m not surprised that a lot of gay men don’t resonate with books written by some female authors.
Please don’t get me wrong. I’m not saying books written by female authors are all terrible. Actually, some female authors have written extremely good books (I highly recommend Christiane Northrup’s books). But generally speaking, I find male authors’ books more interesting.
I enjoy reading intelligent books written by intelligent men, although I don’t have anything against women authors. My favorite book so far is Ryan Holiday’s The Obstacle Is the Way.
I have to point out that Ryan Holiday’s book is the single most important book if you are going through some kind of crisis in your life. When you have to face the music and experience some adversity, this is definitely the right book for you.
Each time when I’m reading a book written by a smart guy, it feels like having a conversation with an intelligent man. And I absolutely love it.
That is another way to be surrounded by good men.
A while ago, I started a book club with fellow gay travelers in this area. We catch up at the beginning of each month to discuss the following:
- Which books we have read;
- What we have learned from these books;
- What we are going to do to get out of our comfort zone this month;
- Which area we need help this month.
Gay men VS straight men
Because of the book club full of gay travelers, I have realized something: gay guys are much less worried about the ego.
When I meet a straight man, I oftentimes only see his ego. This can be felt by shaking hands with him. My intuition is pretty strong.
But when I meet a gay man, it’s much less about ego. Connecting with gay men is much easier and more relaxing.
I don’t have anything against straight men; I’m just not one of them. I’m a 100% gay traveler who wants to meet other gay men.
It is said that even a straight guy is 10% gay. I reckon that’s probably right because many straight men became gay later on. And a lot of men are bisexual anyway.
In this day and age, a growing number of straight men behave like gay men. For instance, many straight guys spend a lot of time and money on their grooming and looks. They even talk like gay guys.
I guess that’s probably because the establishment is pushing the gay culture, gay pride, etc. Hence, being gay is in now.
No wonder the best gay travel app is becoming increasingly popular nowadays. Sometimes it has 6,000 new members per day.
I just had a look at my existing friends: 23 of them are fellow gay travelers; 12 of them are gay men who aren’t travelers; 8 of them are straight men; 3 of them are women.
I don’t know how many friends you have. But when I say “friends”, I’m not talking about your friends on Facebook. I’m talking about high-quality relationships, i.e. close friends that you can confide in.
It is reported that all mental health problems come from issues with human relationships. Thus, I highly encourage you and all gay tourists to build a genuine network of real friends rather than superficial relationships on social media.